Getting your ex-boyfriend back is not going to be a simple procedure. In fact, there are no guarantees that you can get the person who broke up with you or whom you broke up with. Of course, the main determinant is the terms on which the break up came up. However, despite the situation which caused the break up there are simple ways which you can use to increase the chances of getting him back significantly. The important thing is to remember that he is a human being, and therefore the reactions to the desire to get back together may differ.
To begin with, it is important to determine that you really want your ex-boyfriends back and not just the desire to have someone with you. Many individuals find that a few weeks after breaking up, the desire to have anyone sends them running back to the ex-boyfriend. Unfortunately, the things you didn’t like about him are probably there, still showing up once in a while and this tends to lead into a fresh break up again. A second break up will ruin any chances that you ever were to be friends. Therefore, take sometime to employ the “no contact” rule and determine if you really want him back.
What Caused The Break Up?
Answering this question provides a foundation from which to build up your plan to get him back. Remember, the problem is not the person themselves but the situation and issues which they found themselves surrounded with. It is also important to answer who broke up with who? If you did the breaking up, of course then you know the exact reasons you broke up with the person and can move from there. If he broke up with you, determine if he explained the exact reasons why he was breaking up with you.
There are some reasons for breaking up which are easy to resolve, such as the feeling that the relationship was no longer exciting for either party. In this case, all you need to do is remind him of the first days when you got together. Take part in some of the fun activities that he enjoys, spend some time alone as a couple intimately and most of the problems are resolved. However, some other reasons such as one party cheating require time, a lot of talking and figuring out a way forward for the relationship.
Deal With The Panic
Immediately after a break up, we tend to panic that we have lost someone important, a soul mate and significant other permanently. We therefore, call or text them almost all the time. Calling someone just to check on them sounds slightly clingy and there is no one man on earth that can stand a clingy women. Take time to re-discover yourself, and live your own life. Do not find little reasons to communicate with them all the time. When tempted, call a girlfriend or anyone else who can discourage that behavior.
It is important to note that sometimes, the ex-boyfriend will begin adapting someone else. This does not mean that you become an emotional wreck, miserable and panic that you have lost him altogether. Just because he is with someone new, does not immediately translate to he will never get back with you. A major result of the panic, is trying to prove how wrong the other person is for them. This immediately, cements the new relationship. The best advice is to completely ignore the new relationship and continue with your plans as if nothing else is going on around him.
Focus On You Before You Even Try to Get Him Back
Many times for women after a break up, we let go of our looks, dressing and even personal hygiene. This means that anyone who is looking at you sees a miserable creature. This is neither attractive nor is it a sure way of getting your ex back. Take the time during the break up to change your look (of course to something better). Find the short dresses that show off your legs, advertising that you are back. Of course, this does not also mean that you go overboard. Nope, just take some time to look good, feel good and regain your confidence as a woman back.
Now that you have been dating the guy, you probably know the things that turn him on and feed to his secret desires. It is time to put these things into action and get your man back. This lesson was best illustrated by the Duchess of Buckingham herself. During the break up from Prince Charles, she was spotted in fancy outfits, hanging out with friends and seemingly having the time of her life. Not long after, the prince came running back to her. You have to possess what he wants for him to get the desire to have you back.
Make the Move and Keep the Relationship Casual
Of course at some point in time during the extensive plan to get your ex-boyfriends back, you are going to have to make the call. This is not the time to go extensively into the changes you have made. Make it as simple as possible, in terms of language and information. You can actually just ask for some time to go and talk, just the two of you. Do not insist, leave the ball in his court so that he knows and feels he still has some charge in the relationship.
Once you have planned the date, it is not time to go romantic and put all the stops. But rather keep it casual and simple to ensure that they are not overwhelmed. Do not act like a doormat, throwing yourself all over him during this time. Write a love poem to keep distracted. Instead, make sure he understands what you are trying to do, keep it friendly, simple and easy. The result is that he does not feel pressured and therefore is more willing got re-consider his position on the relationship. This is the time to show him the girl he first met, liked and then fell in love with.
A cautionary tale exists in the plan to get your ex-boyfriend back. Neediness and using pity to get him back will only backfire in your face. Also, it is important to note that even when you have done everything you can, there are times when the relationship has just run its course.