Getting your ex boyfriend back is not going to be a simple procedure. Don’t be fooled for a second that winning back his love is an absolute guarantee. In fact, there are never guarantees because each individual is unique and the circumstances that caused the breakup play a huge role in what kind of success you are going to have in this process. With that being said, however, there are a good amount of girls that use this system (with great odds stacked against them, mind you) to woo their ex back in as little as a few weeks!
The main factor of success, as I mentioned, will depend strongly on the situation that caused the original breakup. There are so many variables here that it’s important to really understand what caused the cards to fall in your own relationship. To some it could’ve been a fight. Others might have cheated and got caught. Or maybe it was just a large culmination of things that lead to a mutual breakup. Whatever your individual situation was, now you’ve realized you’ve made a huge mistake and you want nothing more than to have your man in your arms and to call that man your boyfriend once again.
If your answer is that you want him bad enough that you will do anything you have to, then read on because I have some great advice, tips, and step-by-step guidance videos that will give you the absolute best shot at getting your ex boyfriend back and keeping him for good.
Watch this video in its entirety to understand the psychology of the male after a breakup. This is the first step of the process…Imperative First Step to Get Him Back – Watch This Video
Answering the question of how to get your ex boyfriend back. This question provides a foundation from which to build up your plan. Remember, the problem is not the person themselves but the situation and issues which they found themselves surrounded with. It is also important to answer who broke up with who? If you did the breaking up, of course then you know the exact reasons you broke up with the person and can move on from there. If he broke up with you, determine if he explained the exact reasons why he was breaking up with you.
There are some reasons for breaking up which are easy to resolve, such as the feeling that the relationship was no longer exciting for either party. In this case, all you need to do is remind him of the first days when you got together. Take part in some of the fun activities that he enjoys, spend some time alone as a couple intimately and most of the problems are resolved. However, some other reasons such as one party cheating, require time, a lot of talking and figuring out a way forward for the relationship.
Immediately after a break up, we tend to panic that we have lost someone important, a soul mate and significant other permanently. We, therefore, call or text them almost all the time. Calling someone just to check on them sounds slightly clingy and there is no one man on earth that can stand a clingy women. Take time to re-discover yourself, and live your own life. Do not find little reasons to communicate with them all the time. When tempted, call a girlfriend or anyone else who can discourage that behavior.
It is important to note that sometimes he will begin adapting someone else. This does not mean that you become an emotional wreck, miserable and panic that you have lost him altogether. Just because he is with someone new, does not immediately translate to he will never be with you again. A major result of the panic, is trying to prove how wrong the other person is for them. This immediately, cements the new relationship. The best advice is to completely ignore the new relationship and continue with your plans as if nothing else is going on around him.
Many times for women after a break up, we let go of our looks, dressing and even personal hygiene. This means that anyone who is looking at you sees a miserable creature. This is neither attractive nor is it a sure way of getting your ex back. Take the time during the break up to change your look (of course to something better). Find the short dresses that show off your legs, advertising that you are single. Of course, this does not also mean that you go overboard. Nope, just take some time to look good, feel good and regain your confidence as a woman.
Now that you have been dating the guy, you probably know the things that turn him on and feed to his secret desires. It is time to put these things into action. This lesson was best illustrated by the Duchess of Buckingham herself. During the break up from Prince Charles, she was spotted in fancy outfits, hanging out with friends and seemingly having the time of her life. Not long after, the prince came running back to her. You have to possess what he wants for him to get the desire to have you.
Of course at some point in time during the extensive plan to get him back, you are going to have to make the call. This is not the time to go extensively into the changes you have made. Make it as simple as possible, in terms of language and information. You can actually just ask for some time to go and talk, just the two of you. Do not insist, leave the ball in his court so that he knows and feels he still has some charge in the relationship.
Once you have planned the date, it is not time to go romantic and put all the stops. But rather keep it casual and simple to ensure that they are not overwhelmed. Do not act like a doormat, throwing yourself all over him during this time. Write a love poem to keep distracted. Instead, make sure he understands what you are trying to do, keep it friendly, simple and easy. The result is that he does not feel pressured and therefore is more willing got re-consider his position on the relationship. This is the time to show him the girl he first met, liked and then fell in love with.
A cautionary tale exists in this plan. Neediness and using pity will only backfire in your face. Also, it is important to note that even when you have done everything you can, there are times when the relationship has just run its course with your boyfriend.
So now that we’ve covered in great detail some critical action points you can take right now to move in the right direction towards winning back the person you fell in love with long ago, let’s dig deeper into the absolute top 3 steps you must take if you want any chance of calling him your boyfriend again.
“At first, do no harm” is actually an old Hippocratic Oath that applies mostly to doctors, but I think it’s a good metaphor to use after a breakup as well…especially if your end goal is to get back with your ex boyfriend. The absolute first step to take is to make sure you don’t do anything stupid and make things worse than they already are.
You are going to want to call him. You are going to want to text him. You are going to want to go running back to him. You may even want to key his car and take a bat to his house. But don’t do any of it! Keep your emotions in check in don’t make anything worse than they might already be.
Don’t say anything stupid. Don’t do anything stupid. In-fact, don’t do anything at all until you have a clear head, which could take some time. This leads to the next step…
Ok so you’re not together with your boyfriend anymore. While it may seem overwhelming at first, it really is best to take a step back and focus back on yourself for the time being. You certainly don’t want to make any rash decision and ultimately blow and chance at hell you had at getting him back. So heed this advice and take a step back to ponder the entire situation and just take yourself out of all of the negative feelings you have in your body and mind right now. You’ve been single before and were just fine. Even if things don’t happen to work out again between the two of you, just take comfort in the fact that you were fine before and you will, no doubt, be fine again.
Once you’ve gathered your feelings and put yourself back in check again, you’ll be able to make better decisions moving forward. Take a deep breath and realize that everything is going to be alright no matter what!
This is a real possibility, no doubt. It’s most likely NOT going to happen though, depending on your breakup circumstance again. But truth be told, if he’s acting that fast to replace you, it’s probably best you move on anyway. Maybe things weren’t as great as you thought and it is possible that love (or lust) can really play with the emotions in your head and cause some serious delusions in learning how to get your ex back.
Since this not likely true and doubtful that your ex would replace you that fast, it’s best to not even think about this at the time being. Taking a step back means just that. Let everything go for a bit and take a timeout from dealing with any boy issues at the present. You need a clear head and clear thoughts that aren’t clouded by irrational and unlikely hypotheticals. Don’t even let your thoughts go there.
This is a tough question to answer because there is no real ‘right answer’ here. Typically I would advise to give yourself at least a month, if not 2, to really get your mind clear. At first it will seem tough, but the longer you hang in there with this timeout, the longer you will start to see things more clearly and the more rational your actions will be moving forward.
If after a month or 2 you still feel the same and you still know you want him back, then you’ll know it’s the right decision and then and only then should you start to make plans moving forward.
By all means, go ahead and talk to him and reply to him at will. Just don’t do it in haste and don’t you be the one taking the initiative. Trust me. When you are taking this time to yourself and clearing your head, he will be thinking about you the entire time. The longer you hold out, the more it will drive him crazy, the more confidence you will gain, and the more likely it’s going to be for him to be blowing up your phone rather than vice versa. When you are taking this step back, it’s going to signal to him that maybe you’re okay without him after all, and that thought alone will drive him crazy.
So please take the time for yourself and after you do you will hold the upper hand in the relationship moving forward.
Now that you’ve made it a month or 2 without any contact, or at least without initiating contact, and you still know without a doubt he is the one you want to be with, now it is time to take the next step in having your man back in your life.
At this point, if you’ve followed the last 2 steps closely, it’s likely that your ex is either going crazy himself for breaking up with you and he wasn’t prepared for how well you’d take it, or he’s thinking that you’ve moved on and he is now only a minuscule piece of your life. Either way, both will bother him so much that you should now have the upper hand and getting him back at this point should be a lot easier for you now.
By this time you should have…
I still strongly believe that nowadays text messages are by far the best way to make your first move. It’s subtle, and art, yet can still deliver a strong communication. Plus, it’s harder to screw up a text than by saying something wrong over a phone call or face to face meet up. It’s also easier for a man to read your emotions by voice. A simple text will go a long ways and have him begging for more. You will still keep the upper hand this way.
What kind of text should you send him?
Something that reminds him of you and will get him thinking about you again. This could be any number of things that would make sense, maybe only for the both of you. It could be something as simple as you walking by an ice cream shop that you two use to go to. Or it could be a song, movie, book, or a place of interest. Whatever it is, just let him know that it reminded you of him and that you were thinking about him.
Remember that you’re not going to go all in on this text. You DO NOT want to let him know you want him back at this point. You’re only putting out a vibe. A connection to see how he responds and to get a feel of the current situation.
Another thing to know and understand is that you don’t want to discuss the breakup at all. Don’t even bring it up. And whatever you do, do not tell him you miss him or you’ve been living a nightmare since the breakup. None of that! All that he knows is that you’ve been just fine and the breakup didn’t affect you at all (even if it did).
Your ultimate goal here is to get a chance to meet up with him in the near future. If it comes to it, let him know that it would be a shame to lose such a great friendship and that you two should do something fun and just hang out some time soon.
Now that you’ve arranged the meetup, at some non-romantic place I hope, it’s time to get your game face on. I know you want him back, but doing this the right way to make sure it works out this time will take some time and patience. Play your cards right and all will be back to normal sooner than you know!
The purpose of this meetup is to make sure that the two of you can hang out again and actually enjoy each others company and generally have fun together. So focus on having fun and making him forget completely about all of the bullshit that led to the breakup in the first place.
First impressions are key. But you probably already knew this, didn’t you? What you wear will say a lot about this interaction so plan on wearing something informal, but also something that makes him think hard about what he’s been missing out on. Guys are simple, physical, tangible creatures who like to look and touch things they find attractive. If you look good, he’s going to remember that for a long time even after you first meet up.
Don’t overdo it! You don’t want to scream that you have been looking for attention from him and come off the wrong way. Just wear something you know you look good in but something that you are also comfortable in and could wear out normally.
After your first get together, tell him you had fun and that you’re glad he decided to hang out with you. Make plans to do it again. When he says yes, you’re almost as good as gold.
The last and most important step to get your ex back is to make sure you are doing all the right things and following through with whatever relationship goals you have. By now you should know what caused the original breakup in the first place and so you should also know that if you don’t change the results wont either. Having and maintaining a healthy relationship is hard work that requires plenty of communication from both parties.
I really believe that couples should have similar goals and wants in life to really be compatible and work out good for the long term. Now that you’ve got a second chance with your man, take advantage of it. Things aren’t always going to be peachy 100% of the time, but the way that you two react to tough times will say a lot about your relationship. Take the time to talk to each other a lot and if you guys need a break from each other, just calmly walk away for a bit until cooler heads prevail. Nasty fights and breakups are usually avoidable when couples learn to control their emotions better.
I hope this helps you better understand the kinds of things you will need to do in order to win your man back and live the life you want to live happily and peacefully. The steps listed above and on this site are mostly things I’ve learned from my own relationships and my own experience in getting my own ex boyfriend back.
A large part of making these steps work has to do with understanding how men think and why they react the way that they do. I didn’t get into this too much on this site because I think those kinds of things are best left to the professionals. The people who get paid to help other people like you and I who are so heartbroken after a relationship. It is people like Brad Browning who’ve I’ve learned so much from and helped me personally get my boyfriend back, and still helps me with my relationship issues today.
There are several things you can do to make your ex boyfriend want you back. For one, you can make things tough on him by being a bigger challenge and less available to him. You are broken up, after all. If you are easily available and just as easy going, he might find that a bit too much. You can exude a little more confidence while still showing him that you care about it not working out for the two of you. He will likely see how serious you are about bringing things back together.
So what do you do if your ex boyfriend doesn’t want to be with you? Tell yourself repeatedly that there isn’t another woman in his life; but rather something wrong on his end of things. The only way is to give him time and space, which is exactly what he needs right now. It sounds so cliché, but sometimes clichés become clichés because they work every single time! If your ex wants to have some space from you, allow it.
Probably the most likely way to tell if your boyfriend will never come back is if he completely stops communicating with you. When exes break up it is always important to maintain healthy communication. Even if your ex doesn’t want to talk, try calling every once in a while to let him know you’re there for him if he needs anything or just wants someone to listen to his problems.
The answer lies within your ex boyfriend. You have to ask yourself why exactly did the break up occur in the first place? If you were at fault, then apologize and do what is necessary that will help fix the problem. It may take some time and patience but eventually all things are possible when each party puts their minds into fixing the relationship. He might still be hesitant, but stick with it. Don’t give up. The pain of losing your ex boyfriend will soon be replaced by the joy of having him back in your arms once again, a prospect that is well worth waiting for.
I broke up with him and now he wants me to call him. I don’t want to do it, but why?
Sometimes when people break up they wonder what went wrong or how they can fix things so as not to lose their ex boyfriend. If you were the one who decided it was all over then there’s no need for you to wallow in regret. You did what you thought was best for both of you. However if you were the ex boyfriend who initiated the breakup then this might just be a way for him to try and get some space, and maybe he and you BOTH need it.
It’s not a matter of strength or will power here, no ex boyfriend is going to fight you over getting back together. If he wants it then he’ll be trying his hardest and ex boyfriends are willing to do just about anything for this to happen. He may have been taken by surprise when you broke up with him, but now that he knows what was wrong there’s only one thing left for him to do – make it right.
What if he says “let’s take some space?” Is there hope?
If your ex boyfriend says let’s just take a break from each other before making any decisions about our future together, then why would you want to go running right back to him? It may only just make things worse and seriously decrease your chances of ever getting back with him.
It may feel like doom and gloom being alone after a breakup, but there are quite a few things you can say to change his mind, perhaps. Here are some things you can say to ex boyfriend to win him back.
Ask for another chance and make it clear to your ex boyfriend that you want to date him again. If he has moved on, then becoming exes may have made them bitter towards each other. Tell your ex boyfriend what is important in a perfect partner and let him know what is missing from his life by not having you around anymore! Make it clear and obvious why he should give the relationship another try instead of trying to make yourself look better than someone else. Letting exes know how much they are still needed is something which might just convince them to come back into your arms.
If your ex boyfriend broke up with you, then chances are you want him back. You may have had a fight and said some things that you regret or it might be that he is simply not the right ex for you. Whatever the reason exes break up, there is always that one ex boyfriend who will make your heart race again and never stop thinking about you no matter how hard they try! Finding ways to get ex boyfriends back can seem easy when trying to get over a new ex so that your ex boyfriend has time to miss the great relationship you two used to have together.
How do I convince my ex boyfriend to take me back?
There are many exes wanting their former lovers back in their lives again but sometimes exes are too stubborn and won’t budge. So how do you get him to budge and beg for your love again?
Tips and steps to get ex boyfriend back
Don’t try to make exes jealous. This is a way that many girls try to manipulate their exes into seeing how they’re doing without him, but exes are smart and will immediately catch on especially if you still post photos of you hanging out with other guys as your Facebook status. Although there’s nothing wrong with having a life after an ex, chances are he’ll see what you do on social networks when you’re trying to get him back so don’t put attention elsewhere because this won’t prove anything but the fact that you can be happy without your ex. Another thing about not making exes jealous is that this isn’t going to show how much you’ve changed or that you actually care about him dropping you.
Setting ex boyfriends up will only make things tougher, especially when the exes you’re trying to get back are your ex boyfriends from just a few months ago. It’s not always easy as it looks and sometimes exes really mean it when they say that they’re over their exes so don’t do anything stupid if you want your ex boyfriend back. For instance, one of the worst things that girls can do when wanting their exes back is going nuts around them because you’ll look desperate for attention and this could be his way of saying ‘no thanks’ in response to getting him back. When an ex cuts off communication or ignores you completely, what should you do then?
Don’t even bother calling him because he’s made the decision that he doesn’t want to talk to you. What exes need is space! You used to give him all the attention in the world but this sudden lack of attention from you will make him wonder why and how he feels about you now. He’ll be curious enough to contact you and if you don’t seem too eager, ex boyfriends can easily get back with ex girlfriends after a few days. This tactic works especially well when ex boyfriends still have feelings for ex girlfriends but they just had some issues which led them further away from their exes (usually it’s talking too much crap behind ex girlfriend’s backs). When an ex realizes how boring his life has become without you, then that’s the ex boyfriend you’ll be getting back soon.
You can get your boyfriend back by understanding his need to feel needed and important. Your ex might have been feeling unappreciated for a long time before he started losing interest in the relationship. Don’t take ex boyfriends’ love for granted because they will start seeing other girls and when ex lovers see each other with someone else, it’s embarrassing, humiliating or both! This is one of the most common mistakes women make and this is why so many men chase after other girls after breaking up with ex girlfriends. The solution is simple – give your ex a reason to stay with you instead of chasing another girl! Figure out how to show him that you appreciated him with all of your heart.
If you or he has mentioned that you just can’t do this anymore, then that may be a sign that things might be over between the two of you. However, if you really want to make things work with ex-boyfriend and fix your relationship, there are still several ways left for you to try.
Even though it seems like you’ve exhausted all efforts to get ex-boyfriend back, it’s still not over. There are still several ways to make your ex fall in love with you again and these can be done today.
If he is just in a bad mood or probably has already made up his mind on the breakup, he may react coldly toward you by questioning where you’re going with all this, how long do you plan to keep contacting him and so forth. If he asks questions like those above, don’t despair! That’s merely proof that deep inside he does care about what was once between the two of you.
Just stay positive and continue to try getting him back until such time that he stops answering your phone calls or texts.
The only way to really know if things are over is if you are both struggling to hold a conversation. If you’re the one doing all the talking while he listens quietly, then there’s something wrong. If that is the case, however, don’t loom on it. He may be struggling with his own issues and just needs time to figure things out; or a little space to realize what an ex boyfriend or girlfriend means to them.
Your ex might have already gotten over you but wants to stay friends, or may be seeing someone else right now – these are all reasons why your ex would no longer want to get back together with you. Realizing this fact will lessen the pain of being dumped because you’ll know that it was never really meant for you two in the first place.
If your ex keeps avoiding phone calls and telling you to leave him alone, it may be best just to give him some time. Once he has had enough time to think about things, give him a call and have a conversation – if he does not want to pick up your calls or talk to you, then it may be best just to move on.
“Get Over Him”
This is the hardest part of getting over anyone because it’s easier said than done. A lot of people are in love with their exes and would do anything for them. But what they don’t realize is that they’ll never move on unless they get over your ex first! Even though it might take some time before you can completely forget about your ex boyfriend, these tips will help take out the sting:
If and when you do talk to your ex again, pay very close attention to his body language. It’ll give you some clues about how he really feels.
If ex boyfriend is trying to talk to you, listen carefully for words like maybe, hopefully and positive statements – these are signs that ex is still interested in getting back together with you. He wants something to be possible between the two of you. And if ex says ‘I don’t know,’ or ‘Maybe things will change’, ask him questions that require more than a yes or no answer, such as: “What would it take?” or “How could it happen?”. These are examples of positive language that ex boyfriend might use to show interest in reconciliation.
His feelings are really going to show in his actions, and this is what you need to pay attention to and react accordingly. If your ex boyfriend is talking about his present relationship, he is definitely not over it. If he talks about how the two of you were so good together, and all the good things that you experienced together as a couple, and wants to get back with you. He still loves you and cannot live without you in his life. It doesn’t matter if he says something negative about your current relationship – this just means that your ex really thinks that you should give the relationship another chance!
Here are some tests you can do to see if he actually still cares about you:
First, check to see he’s paying attention to you and listening to the things you have to say when you are talking. If he is, there’s a chance that he could still be interested.
Second, watch for signs of attraction from him.
When boys start to feel the effects and pull of their former partner’s attraction towards them again, they usually act differently than they do when they are just starting to get over their exes. If your ex is trying to flirt or make sexual advances toward you (or changes his behavior in a similar way), this doesn’t necessarily mean he wants you back; it may just mean that you have been on his mind lately and that he feels attracted to you again. But as long as there is little evidence of emotional investment mixed in with these signs, then whatever feelings he is showing is probably a good sign that you may be able to work things out and get back together again.
Here are a few ways to tell if your ex boyfriend still cares about you.
If so then that shows that your ex cares about you and as long as you have given it enough time, then there still might be a chance for you to work things out and get back together with him. You can still learn how to get your ex boyfriend back.
On the other hand, if he ignores you and drops any and all plans to be around you, then he may not care about you in the way that you want him to.
The content on this page is no ebook, but it can help. When a breakup has been going on for weeks, months or even years it can be very easy to question whether you ex boyfriend still wants to be with you. However, there are several signs that if he still loves and cares about you then he will show whenever the two of you are around each other.
Again, make time to communicate with him somehow and check his body language. If he seems distant, or completely disinterested in what you are trying to say then it is likely that he does not want to speak to you.
The ex boyfriend that still cares will make as much time and effort for the relationship as possible. As well as being able to see how he acts when the two of you are together there are often other signs that can indicate whether or not your ex wants a future with you.
Remember, most ex boys\girls want back into a relationship because they feel lonely without ex love interest around them so if he starts hanging out more with friends, going out of their way to watch movies they’ve already seen before just so they aren’t alone, doing things like flirting with others, these are all not good signs.
He may have told you that things will never work out between the two of you again, but if you really, really want him back, then give him some time. Give him a sign that you are willing to do whatever it takes for things to be just like they were. You can even say something like this, “I want us to try again because I still love you more than anything else in the world.”
If he has been ignoring you, start talking about your future with someone else. It may seem heartless at first but when he realizes how much you mean to him, there is a good chance he could get jealous and then start working his way back into your arms.
This may sound cold-hearted and go against everything you feel at the moment, but try acting like you don’t really care about him. If all else fails, this could shock him into feeling like he now has to compete again for your affection.
Many exes get over their ex by getting with someone else. When this happens, you feel even more devastated and it becomes easier to convince yourself that they are truly gone forever.
Make sure he knows how much you have moved on from him, don’t be afraid to show him that you’ve been dating other people. Don’t care too much if he’s seen out with another girl or heard about him hooking up with someone new. Doing this will make him wonder about what happened between the two of you, making him want to know why you’re not as emotionally invested in the relationship anymore.
If your ex calls after he has begun seeing someone else, brush off his call without sounding too upset or depending on how close you were. Just pretend like you really don’t care, even though we all know you still do.
What happened? Did you guys break up and now he’s all about his new girlfriend? Oh, but she doesn’t know what she’s got. You’re the one that understands him best because you grew up with him. He may not want to admit it, but deep down inside he knows that you are the perfect girl for him! Here are some tips from a professional relationship therapist on how to get your ex boyfriend back:
As a professional therapist and one who dabbles in psychology who has seen all kinds of grieving women come to me for relationship advice, I want to share some advice on how you can get your ex boyfriend back.
Everyone has their own individual relationship. Some couples are really in love and the breakup is a huge blow, while others barely made it through the first month of dating before they knew it was over. This means that there’s no one-size-fits all method for getting him back, but here are three key steps that will help anyone who wants to try:
First off, be patient with yourself and make sure not to add too much pressure by setting timelines or ultimatums.
Second, take things slow when trying to figure out what went wrong – don’t go into detail about every single thing he did since he broke up with you because this will only make you feel worse and not really help the situation at all.
Third, don’t try to convince him that he’s in love with you after only a few days. Let things cool off for awhile and then start slowly winning him back from the outside-in.
While everyone wants their relationship to work out as soon as possible, this doesn’t happen all of the time – especially if they have already ended things on bad terms due to an argument of some sort. It can be a slow process but one worth sticking through.
If you want things done right and want your ex to come back to you, take the time to really delve into why the relationship went sour in the first place. Take time for yourself to heal and then take the time to figure out why you want your ex back.
Not only will this allow for a more honest conversation when trying to get him back, but it also shows maturity on your part because you’re making sure that what happened before won’t happen again in the future.
When he sees how serious you are about getting through any past drama, he’ll be more likely to give things another chance with you – if not just for closure sake alone!
It’s easy to stay in a deep depression following the breakup because you feel like there isn’t anything good left. But this is not your truth!
Focus on what you have going for yourself and think about how much better it will be when he sees that too! Send him love letters or post inspiring words of encouragement on his social media feed – just don’t let up until he asks for help getting over you.
Your ex wants someone who won’t give up, so show them that person by showing them the best version of YOU possible!
This can seem difficult at first but I promise you with time and effort, it’ll get easier, especially on how to get your ex boyfriend back. Like any other goal worth achieving in life, hard work pays off. You deserve happiness, and you need to make sure you realize that. Otherwise things will only get worse for you, and the ultimate goal is your happiness!
Once you’ve given yourself and your ex time to breathe and think about what caused the breakup, your next move is to try to convince him that you are his only, and best, option for the future.
This is where the dog and pony show comes in. You may have to do some extra work to woo him back, but if you want your ex boyfriend back then it’s worth the effort! If he’s been asking for space or time apart from you, this will be a great opportunity for you to show how much better life can be with just one person: YOU.
You might need to consider what went wrong in your relationship before so that way he knows why you are different than other girls who could offer him friendship without any strings attached. It could also help get his mind off of whatever has caused the breakup between you two – whether it was cheating or not communicating about expectations. Whatever happened during those times when things we’re really good, that’s what you need to remind him of.
Offer him a drink – preferably at your place so there are no distractions – and tell him all about yourself without editing anything out or holding back too many details. Share your thoughts on things in general; whether they’re work anecdotes, favorite TV shows, home renovation projects or travel aspirations. You don’t have to say anything deep but make sure whatever you do talk about has meaning behind it. When his attention starts waning (if not before), mention something offhand like “I’m really looking forward to when we get our new tattoos together.” (or something along those lines).
This will make your ex boyfriend think about his life without you and the thought he could be missing out on all of these experiences. This is a great opportunity to touch him or scratch an itch, too! Go for it; if nothing else, just remember that this is only temporary so go nuts!
If the above doesn’t work, try one of these tactics:
Remember, it’s not about making him regret the breakup – that will only make things worse by stirring up emotions you need to work through. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, focus on why he should be with YOU right now. If you’re feeling really brave, ask for his opinion or feedback; just don’t do this too often because eventually your ex boyfriend might stop giving any input at all!
If none of these tactics seem appropriate then try talking to someone else who knows your ex well: family friend, coworker etc.). They may have an idea or two they can share with you so that way you know how best to approach your former love.
Now that you’ve got a general idea about what to do first in how to get your ex boyfriend back, it’s time to explore the next few steps you can take. You’ll want to consider how patient your ex boyfriend is before doing anything else so that way he knows what his options are when trying to get back together with you or if this relationship isn’t going to work out at all.
If patience hasn’t set in yet then try making a date night happen! Invite him for dinner and play up the ambiance by using candles, dim lights, music etc. Then invite him over after dessert for some alone-time; just make sure whatever questions he asks have honest answers because they need something concrete from both of you about whether there is enough room left between each other for forgiveness/forgiveness + trust again. If not, then you may need to rethink your game plan and either try something else or just move on from this guy completely.
Assuming now that you have at least got your man back to like you again and are in some sort of relationship, how do you keep that relationship solid so that this doesn’t happen again? How do find out finally how to get your ex boyfriend back?
It’s best to try to figure out why he left in the first place and make amends to those things. If you are not sure what caused him to leave, ask your friends or family for their input. The most likely reasons are that the two of you stopped spending time together (which is a really big deal), you were too busy with life outside of him (working long hours etc) and didn’t put enough effort into being there for each other when needed, something changed about his feelings towards you which made it difficult for him to be around as often without feeling like he was suffocating himself by doing so.
Or maybe money problems crept up? Whatever it may have been though, find ways to work through these issues before they happen again. Form healthy habits with your boyfriend. Spend time together, communicate openly and honestly with each other. And most of all, recognize that nobody is perfect. Not even you.
Winning back the love of your life after a harsh breakup may seem like a daunting task at first when learning how to get your ex boyfriend back, but just know that it is possible. There is a right way to go about it, and there are certainly drastic mistakes that should be avoided. The first step in the plan would be to find out if you have a chance at getting him back or not. If you’re already sure of that fact then read on.
Many times after breakups, people tend to over analyze everything, especially when they feel like their heart was just torn apart. This makes them feel miserable for up to several months, which is not good for anyone since misery loves company. It’s important to sit down and look at things rationally instead of just succumbing into self pity without analyzing the situation thoroughly. Take advice from your friends who might actually give an honest opinion rather than someone who tells you what you want to hear.
Here are a few tips to get the process started so you can learn to win him back as fast as possible and finally end that heartache you’ve been feeling since the breakup:
Remember the good times you guys shared together.
No matter how bad things were between you and your ex, there are probably moments that stand out clearly in your mind where you guys had nothing but great times together. They could be a vacation trip or just an afternoon spent strolling around the city holding hands. The important thing here is to remember those memories and start thinking about them often so they can bring back that feeling of happiness when you think about him. If he has left a void in your heart then this will certainly fill it while showing him that even though he did hurt you deeply, he’s still an important part of your life and his memory should be cherished by keeping all those happy memories alive inside your head so they never die.
Aside from the obvious, it may not be possible to win him back immediately. These things generally take time, and if you don’t give yourself enough time, then you may find yourself alone and not able to ever win him back. The most crucial thing is that you give yourself plenty of time to process everything and get over the emotions that come from a hard breakup.
Another important element I feel may be helpful in this process is by hiring a professional relationship/marriage counselor. A good therapist has helped many people in your situation before, and they will be able to help you find out what’s wrong with your relationship so it can be fixed immediately. Counselors are effective because they listen analytically while allowing you to discuss painful events without being judged or ridiculed because of doing so. They are also trained in helping people through various problems related to breakups, such as the three scenarios mentioned above: cheating on someone, not caring about your feelings anymore, etc.
So while you want to heal your heartache as fast as possible, it may not be in your best interest in the long run.
There are things you can do to ensure your relationship never hits a snag again and how to get your ex boyfriend back. Here’s one the most important things you must do: stop focusing on the past and instead focus on the future. It may be hard in the beginning, but eventually you will grow out of your angry phase as long as it is replaced with positivity and good memories once again.
When you inevitably find yourself thinking about how he hurt you, try to remember something that makes you happy. You can have him back permanently if you follow a few steps to help restore peace in both your heart and your relationship with him so it stays that way for a while. Remember what made you fell in love with him in the first place and start acting like that person he fell for all over again!
Did he cheat on you?
If your relationship ended because he cheated on you, you may want to seriously rethink how you approach things moving forward. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great that he’s not with her anymore but if you’re trying to win him back then don’t let this come between you. He clearly didn’t think much of your relationship when he decided to cheat so what makes you think he’ll stick around in the future?
It’s very important that you make a decision as to how serious of a relationship is for you. If this is only a fling or some sort of rebound relationship while he tries to figure out his life, then by all means go right ahead and date him again! However, if you want a long-term relationship with him then it’s important that you both have an honest conversation about these things. Be direct, honest and mature about what you want and whether or not he’s the right guy for you.
If your ultimate goal is love and happiness, then you may have to realize that this guy may not be the best for either of those. Remember that you can change, but it may be difficult or near impossible to get him to change.
If you’re unsure about seeking out a relationship with him, but would like to remain friends then that’s a better option as opposed to getting him back into your life. It can be difficult maintaining a friendship after being together for so long, so it’s best if you are sure of what you want before moving forward.
If You Want To Get Him Back Right Away…
There is one way to get him back immediately and that is by doing nothing at all. Well, maybe not nothing exactly but just relax and stop trying so hard! If he wanted to be with you, then he would have never left in the first place. So why do something now that might scare him off? This is something you’ll need to find out with the question how to get your ex boyfriend back for good and immediately.
The last thing you want to do is scare him off. So what do you do next? What’s your first move? Do you confront him about his feelings for you? Do you ask if he’s still interested in getting back together?
If this is your first relationship then just be careful with the way that you approach things. There are no right or wrong answers to these questions because every relationship is different and handles communication differently. In fact, there’s really no secret on how to get someone to like you other than being yourself and having fun!
While time may not seem of importance, it can make a huge difference in respect to how successful your efforts to win him back might be. If you’re still in the “fresh” stage of sadness, then it’s no big deal at all. His interest may increase because he wants to be there for you! However, if you’ve been broken up a while and he hasn’t contacted you yet, be sure not to pester him with your affection because that’s one way to push him away.
It’s best to give him some time and space to heal from his past relationship (if any) so that he can make a decision as what kind of person is right for him. You might find yourself being disappointed when he doesn’t contact you but that doesn’t always mean anything negative about your ex-boyfriend or your relationship with him. He might just need a little more time.
And I know time and space is the LAST thing you want to hear, because you are here reading this article on how to win him back fast, but you’ll be better off taking the “long-term” approach. Be patient and just let things happen naturally, no matter how difficult it might seem.
What’s The Best Way To Receive An Answer?
To get an honest answer from a guy about whether or not he wants to get back together again is probably one of the most difficult questions that you can ask him…. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings but he also doesn’t want to lie and make himself look bad in the process.
So what do you do? How do you give yourself the best opportunity at getting a straight answer without hurting his sentiments in any way? It’s always good (and safe) to give him some space for a while before approaching him and begging him for his affection.
If he’s not sure yet and you force an answer out of him, then that can really hurt your relationship in the long-run. Not to mention, you don’t really want to be with someone who doesn’t want you back, do you? No matter how difficult it might seem, just give him time and space so that he can make a sound decision as to what is best for himself (and his life).
When deciding whether or not it’s a good idea to reach out to your ex-boyfriend again, there are a few questions that you should ask yourself: Is it worth taking the risk of getting my heart broken again? How many times has this happened before?
The answers to these questions, along with many others that you can think of, like how to get your ex boyfriend back, will determine whether or not this is a good idea. If it’s just one time then maybe you should go for it. The worst he can do is say “no” once more and at least you know where things stand now than ever before. However, if your relationship has had its troubles in the past (or even still struggling) then I highly suggest taking the most cautious approach and give him some space so that he can heal properly from his previous breakups (if there were any).
What Else Can I Do?
You might think that doing nothing is boring but sometimes being patient and letting things happen naturally the way they’re supposed to happens to be the best method for getting him back.
This can actually be beneficial in a number of ways. First, if you give him time and space, he may actually feel left out and feel like he wants you back. Or, if he’s already found someone else, this might prompt him to make a decision as whether or not he can find it in his heart to let go of the past and give love another chance with you!
So… What Should I Do?
You’ve decided that it’s okay to reach out to your ex-boyfriend again. However, you’re still doing nothing but waiting and wondering how things are going between the two of you. So what should you do to get an answer? Well here are a few helpful suggestions: Just give him some time and space for now (it could take a couple weeks or even months) Then write an honest letter about how much he means to you. Share your feelings with him and be honest. If he does respond, act like you never wanted to have him back in the first place. If he doesn’t respond, wait a few more weeks or MONTHS (it all depends on how you feel about it), and then write another letter expressing your feelings.
If you still don’t get a response, repeat this process over and over until you get an answer either way. Chances are that if he hasn’t responded by now that part of him wants to let go of the past just like everyone else and give love another chance… or maybe he’s found someone else! Keep in mind though that these suggestions might not work for everybody so use them at your own discretion.
How often should you contact him immediately after a breakup?
Be very careful with how you approach your communication efforts at first. If you’ve never contacted your ex before, then you don’t want to appear desperate or needy with the first few emails. Keep it short and sweet and if he doesn’t respond, just leave him alone for a while so that he can stop thinking about how much of an impact this breakup has had on him.
The exception here would be when you’re contacting someone who ignored all of your attempts to get in touch with them after the breakup occurred. At least give some time for them to settle down and get used to the idea of no longer being in a relationship… but don’t wait too long! The best email response times are within 48 hours after initial contact is made (48-72 at most).
What kind of content should you include in your texts or emails?
This really depends on how you feel about the current relationship and whether or not you’re just trying to make him jealous so that he wants you back. If so, then stick with a simple and romantic message such as “thinking of you” or something more playful like “can’t wait to kiss those lips again”.
However, if it’s genuine feelings that are still there and desire for the two of you to get back together, then be honest with your texts and emails but try to stay away from showing desperation. Try a message such as “I was just thinking about how much fun we used to have together” or “Hey… I’ve been missing your smile lately… call me when you can.”
Avoid using any kind of flirting in your messages if you feel that will make him angry. If you do feel comfortable flirting with him, then be careful with what you’re saying because there’s a chance that he might contact you just to tell you to stop.
What are your thoughts on asking other people for advice?
It’s actually better to ask someone that has been through this before and would be willing to share their experiences with you than it is trying to get advice from someone who isn’t in the same situation as you are. You might find some good ideas but if they have no personal experience to go along with it, they won’t really be able to give accurate results.
But talking to someone who has been through all of this before can be very helpful. Make sure that you are getting advice from someone who is either a friend or a family member because the last thing you want to do is start spreading rumors about your ex and give people false expectations of what they can do.
So you want to get your boyfriend back through text messaging? Okay. Here are a few tips to help you optimize your chances of success.
In general, you want to be calm and rational. In text messages, it’s usually best to avoid using all capital letters. If you spend time with another girl or boy while still with your ex boyfriend then let him know about it through a text message. One way that this works is through the fact that he will worry about losing the relationship and not have any other reason to leave you (you’ve already given up on him which lowers his chances of leaving).
What if he is already dating someone else? You need to send a series of texts in order for this method to work well because the mere mention of making ouret doesn’t necessarily cause him many problems (especially if he has been with her longer than you seeing each other).
Text messaging probably shouldn’t be your first option in trying to get him back. If you’ve exhausted all other options, or just want to put a feeler out, text messages can certainly work though.
When Text Messages Actually Work to Win Him Back…
One thing to keep in mind before sending your text message if you want him back is that, more often than not, text messages fail. Yes, they work at times when the guy wants to get back with you very badly and will do anything in order to win your affection again . But if the guy doesn’t really care about you or simply does not miss you (even though he might tell you otherwise) – a text message will not help getting him back!
What about changing his mind then? A text message may still make it happen but this is yet another thing that has a small chance of success . That’s right! There are no guarantees every time.
One possible way – among others – to change his mind was made public by a friend of mine who found out that her ex boyfriend was seeing another girl.
She was sure that would lead to the end of their relationship. He didn’t see it that way as he kept seeing her without any warning whatsoever.
Quite naturally, she was devastated and decided to show him whose mind was right. She sent a text message (because talking on the phone is not awesome for this type of situation) along with a photo of herself. This photo showed her at the beach in front of quite an attractive guy who seemed very interested in what she had to say.
The goal? Tell her boyfriend exactly how good she felt about herself and have him ultimately realize he could lose her because of his lack of interest. Her attitude change towards other men because of what happened gave him all the reason needed to be jealous, and it actually worked!
So there are perfect opportunities to send these texts that can be extremely effective. You just need to know when you should send this text and what kind of message would actually get your ex boyfriend back.
It all depends on how much the guy really cares about you and whether he still misses being in a relationship with you or not. If he does, then he is more likely to react to his jealousy. For some guys, it’s the only way to win their girl’s heart again . That is why these messages can be simply awesome!
Unfortunately, most texts sent by women are useless in getting him back because they don’t work. The main reason for that is men have something called “selective memory”. It lets them forget the bad and remember the good times spent together. This ability is one thing that makes men especially easy to win back their affection.
If you want to be successful in responding to your text messages after a breakup, here are a couple of tips and advice you should keep in mind:
1. Make your message short and simple
The less the guy has to read, the better it is for him. Keep all details related to your story (and his story as well) away from your text messages . That keeps things interesting and will help you stay focused on winning back his heart. So don’t be long-winded! Avoid being boring at any cost!
2. Use emotions to tell him how much he means to you… The guy might not remember that aspect about you but he knows deep down inside that’s what matters most to him in a relationship with any girl. This is something that can make or break this whole thing, so think wisely before pushing that “send” button.
3. Be honest and direct
I know, that’s not what you want to hear but the truth is that most of your texts are diluted with lies or half-truths . Maybe it makes things easier for you to convince yourself everything is okay, but it’s not. That might be one of the worst mistakes you can do! The important thing here is being honest with yourself first, then him and everyone else involved in this situation (if any).
You need to listen to his response as much as he needs to listen to what you have to say. This way, both of you will understand each other better and find a common ground where a real relationship can grow into something beautiful again.
4. Don’t expect big miracles
All good things take time and effort. So take note of this and work at it until you get your ex boyfriend to want you back in the same way he did. It’s not an overnight thing but with time, you will see results. The important thing is that both of you are willing to work on it.
Keeping these few things in mind can make all the difference between a successful outcome and a failed attempt. Just remember, most guys need some extra motivation to come running back into your arms just like they always have. You know how much he missed being with you… Now let him know!
All text messages should be simple and short so don’t go overboard, especially if they are meant for getting your ex boyfriend back. Be honest about what hurts the most right now.
If you are certain that you want your ex boyfriend back, and are also certain it will lead to long term happiness, but nothing has worked up to this point. Hang in there. Be patient but remain persistent with your efforts to win him back.
You may have tried the ‘leave them alone and give them some space’ approach, but found that didn’t work for you. Or perhaps you were trying to get your ex boyfriend back via long-distance communication like texting or emailing, thinking it would be easier than face-to-face contact. Yet, this too has failed to bring your ex boyfriend back into your life permanently.
All of us make assumptions about what will be effective in our attempts to win back a man; however, oftentimes these assumptions are wrong. This is why men continue to struggle with winning their ex boyfriends back after ending a relationship without first properly dealing with past unresolved issues from the relationship itself.
If none of the advice mentioned here has helped you in the past, it may be time to seek extra help from a professional. A professional will have you take on the worst case scenario and will help you accept it. This is essential for avoiding common pitfalls that can trip us up in the future if we’re not careful.
There are plenty of relationship counselors and therapists who can both help you overcome your grief and try to win back the man of your desire. There are also books and exercises you can do on your own. Bottom line, though, is to be patient but persistent in your attempts to win him back. One tip might not work initially, but another will; it may just take time.
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