Going through a breakup with someone you love and have been with for a long time is a feeling only comparable to actually losing a loved one through death. No matter what, it hurts. I know. This feeling is something that we naturally want to find relief in and end the grieving as soon as possible, right? I want to tell you right now that if you make the right moves and are patient with your strategy, you can get your ex back permanently.
I hate to be so direct and to the point, but most of you reading this will need a good slap in the face moment to make you realize that your actions probably got you to the point you are in right now. And most of the girls I talk to are overdoing it by calling and texting their ex back constantly, over and over and over and over and over…
I hope you get the point.
You just broke up, don’t give him any reason to reinforce his logic for breaking up with you. If your neediness shows, this is exactly what it will do.
So what should you do instead? Just the opposite. Show him how fine you are or will be after the breakup. Avoid him. Ignore him. Go about your life focusing on you. Why? He will see this and it will drive him crazy.
No matter what, do not let your man walk all over you. Be strong. If he’s trying to use you for late night booty calls and you give in, that’s all you are going to be…a booty call. While that moment or night together will feel good and provide immediate relief to your grieving, which I talked about in the intro, it will do nothing to actually win your man back for good, permanently, like we are going for.
So stay strong. Use the no contact rule. Do whatever you can to distract your mind and body from making stupid mistakes. Focus on yourself instead.
It is natural to be pissed, upset, angry, hurt, sad and all of the other gamut of emotions that come after a breakup. But whatever you do, do not display these emotions in front of your ex boyfriend.
Fighting with him will make things worse. Begging and pleading him to come back will not help, and only make things worse. Apologizing too much will only make things worse. Talking over him will only make things worse. Crying in front of him will only make things worse.
Leave your emotions with you in the comfort of your own home, in privacy. When you are in front of our ex boyfriend, you need to come off as you are nothing but “A-OK”.
I sincerely hope you see the point in what I’m trying to convey here. It’s all about the male psychology and playing your cards right to give yourself a fighting chance to win him back permanently. While it is natural to overreact and overcome to your emotions, this will only reinforce your man’s reasons for breaking up with you and ruin any chances you have in getting him back. Instead to just the opposite. Remain stoic, stoic, poised and under control and you will have a fighters chance to win him back and get him back for good.
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