Going through a breakup is tough. There’s no doubt about that. Going through breakups over and over again with the same guy is even tougher, and there are a lot of girls that experience this repetitive heartbreak cycle again and again. If you are someone who wants to learn how to get my ex back for good, I can help. Please follow along…
Yep, you read that right. Your first move is to take a step back and remove yourself from this toxic relationship…for now. What you’ve been doing up to this point hasn’t been working, so it’s time to take some time away.
Removing yourself completely from the situation means absolutely no contact at all with your ex boyfriend. Don’t contact him through Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat. Don’t call him or text him or write him a letter. Don’t even go online to check his statuses or stalk him in any form or fashion at all!
This time away from him is essential because you don’t want to come off as needy and completely dependent of your boyfriend. If you constantly go right back to him after he breaks up with you and he keeps breaking up with you, this means he’s taking advantage of you and it’s time for you to turn the tide in this relationship. When you ignore him and stay away from him, this is the first step to doing just that and after some time you will have the ball in your court, so to speak.
This time away will do wonders for you. If he hasn’t already contacted you by now, he probably will soon. But if you’ve given it a good 2 months with zero contact, you can now start to make your moves. At first your actions will be subtle and you never want to smother him at any point. A simple text here and there is a good start.
What to say in your texts is really up to you, but it should be something that doesn’t come off too needy and you don’t want to push towards any dating just yet either. You just laying the seeds here. Ask him something simple like how has he been, and then follow up with something that reminded you of him. Something that only the two of you have a connection with.
How you engage with this conversation and communication should be slow and steady. If he’s quick to text you back and curious about you as well, you’ve already won this game and the ball is not truly in your court. Just don’t push too much too fast or you will lose control once again.
Going through repetitive breakups might be a sign that your relationship is toxic and might need to be ended anyway, but the best way to maintain a healthy, long-term relationship is great communication and understanding between the two of you. Constant lying and secret keeping means you don’t need to be in a relationship with him. Move on and focus on yourself instead.
I hope this information will be useful to you. You can always learn more by reading more of my blog! And check out my full Ex Boyfriend Guidance and videos before you leave. Leave a comment below if you have any questions.